Sometimes life throws us difficulties and the best we can do is emerge as stronger people from them. And this happened to a couple who was very much in love. Ronda Bives and Matthew Mager from Knoxville, Tennessee have been together for 10 years now and have two children. The pair has been dating since high school and recently got married while Ronda was in her hospital bed.
“She wanted to have a beautiful wedding, and I wanted to give her that,” Ronda’s husband, Matt Mager, told HuffPost.
12 months ago, Ronda was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer and was told that she doesn’t have much longer.
On February of 2016 she got the worst call from her doctor. The 28-year-old was diagnosed with epithelioid sarcoma on her ankle which required an amputation.
After going to chemotherapy, things were getting only worse for Ronda. They told her that the cancer spread to her lungs. She battled the disease for a year until the doctors notified her that she had only some days to live.
“It was so awful. I did 5 months and I don’t know how I made it through. I seriously thought that I would die if I didn’t stop. So I refused to do anymore because it wasn’t doing anything. Shortly after chemo I developed pneumonia in my left lung, which I still have to this day, 8 months later. ”
The high school couple has always hoped for a big wedding and boyfriend Matt was going to do that for her.
The had two children aged four and six. It was really emotional when Matt said for an interview that his goal was to “give her his last name before she passes.”
Amanda Dalton, Ronda’s best friend helped organize the nuptials.
“It was friends calling friends, getting everything together,” said Dalton, who helped get Ronda into a donated wedding dress. “We called the county clerk’s office ― they sent someone out ― and we got a preacher. It happened literally within a couple hours once we got it rolling.”
Matt said: “I told her from day one when we first found out she had cancer that ‘I know we always talked about having a big wedding.’ I said ‘if anything happens, we will get married somehow, some way.”
Ronda’s wedding took place also on the day she turned 28. In the past few days the couple watched the wedding pictures and the video of their wedding ceremony.
“She’s got the most beautiful eyes ― eyes you can’t get away from,” Matt said.
Matt says: “I joke with her and say, ‘You’re not going anywhere now. We are hitched.’ I spend most days just holding her hand and talking to her because I may not be able to talk to her tomorrow.”
“I told him his mother is going to heaven soon,” Matt said. “I’ve sat there and talked with him and cried with him. I had to tell him it ain’t going to be same. It’s hard ― no 6-year-old should have to hear that.”
“I’ve seen better days, but I’ve also seen worse. I don’t have everything that I want, but I do have all I need. I woke up with some aches and pains, but I woke up. My life may not be perfect, but I am blessed,” Ronda wrote on her Facebook earlier this month.