When it comes to commenting on other’s appearances, children have absolutely no filter. But to raise them with a healthy body image, we have to stay calm and speak naturally in response. However, Allison Kennedy is a parenting role model when it comes to raising body-positive kids. The 30-year-old author and speaker on topics like self love, self care and personal empowerment posted on Instagram her reaction after her daughter called her fat.
So, it all started when she told her kids that it was time to go home from the pool, her daughter was so upset and told her brother that “mama is fat.” Kennedy decided then, to teach them both a lesson.
“My daughter called me fat today,” she wrote in the caption of a photograph of herself and her 4-year-old daughter Cambelle in bathing suits by the water. “She was upset I made them get out of the pool and she told her brother that mama is fat.”
Instead of getting upset by the comment, she told her daughter to meet her upstairs for a chat. The Florida mom, explained to her that everyone has to protect their muscles and bones and some people have more than others. But no one is better or worse because of it.
“The truth is, I am not fat,” she said. “No one IS fat. It’s not something you can BE. But I do HAVE fat. We ALL have fat. It protects our muscles and our bones and keeps our bodies going by providing us energy.” Kimmey went on teaching the kids that “fat is not a bad word in our house”.
She has a history of restrictive eating, yo-yo dieting and body dysmorphia. She said that she started her Instagram account to inspire others and to share her self-love journey. Her story has gone viral since then, reaching over 32k likes.
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Allison also shared her empowering brand of parenting before when she shared conversation she had with her daughter about stretch marks in March. During the conversation, she described them as “shiny,” “sparkly,” and “pretty.” She also called them “glitter stripes.”
Teaching her a lesson.
But she can’t control what her kids hear at school.
Although she is determined that in her house, they will not call people fat as an insult.
“It is our job to continue to be the loudest, most accepting, positive and CONSISTENT voice they hear”
Now she is going to release a series of body confidence books for children starting with the soon-to-be-published Glitter Stripes. The book will be illustrated by Sanne Thijs, a body positive activist.
”I want parents to see that we are the loudest voices our children should hear, regardless of any outside noise, and it is vital that we choose our words carefully and that we are willing to have these hard conversations,” she said.
Her story went viral and a lot of the comments are positive and supportive.
While others disagree with Kimmey’s point of view
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