Kelly Glover is a 39-year old plus-size blogger from Australia, who states that after losing almost half of her weight she can not get a date. Can you believe it? You would think it would be the opposite, right? When Kelly used to weigh 335 lbs, men were asking her out everywhere she went: from the coffee shop to the gym and even an Uber carpool, she never had troubles getting a date. Completely baffled by this, Kelly decided to ask a male friend why he thought her dating pool had dried up.
“For months I couldn’t figure it out. Why was it that the smaller I got the less interested the single men got?” she asked in an essay for Mamamia.
She now weighs 185 lbs and has dropped from a size 24 to a size 18. Pretty impressive right?
Kelly could not wrap her head around the fact that she got asked out on more dates before she lost the 67 kilos. Granted, she was living in Los Angeles when she was getting all the dates so that might be one reason, since the dating scene in LA is immensely different. However, when she moved back to Australia things started to change.
“When I lived in Hollywood, men would literally chase me down the street just to speak with me. This never happens in Australia” the blogger said.
“I was exactly the same person; same personality, same looks, and same weight. The only thing that was different was the location. It changed everything,” Kelly explained.
Soon after she moved back to Sydney from LA, she realized that her plus-size figure was truly a plus for her romantic life
After not being able to figure it out for months, she finally decided to ask a male friend for an honest answer to the dilemma why people don’t want to date her after she lost the weight.
“Well, people are more confident hollering at fat chicks. They feel there is less chance of rejection, so they are bolder,” her friend replied.
After that revelation, Kelly realized that it wasn’t her, it was them! Men stopped thinking she was desperate and would ‘automatically say yes’.
No more plus size passive dating from me – Kelly decided
But the blogger, who had gastric sleeve surgery, believed that her slimmed-down figure would help keep the dates rolling in once she returned home
What her friend told her reminded Kelly of the ‘fat chicks are easy’ myth, which she believes is ‘complete bull’.
“You think fat chicks are easy? Truly pursuing a fat chick isn’t a sprint, it’s a freaking marathon!” she wrote.
Her friend’s Facebook message was the turning point for Kelly, and she decided that is time for big changes in her romantic life. No more being passive and waiting for the man to make the first step. She joined a dating app called Bumble, where women have to send men the first message. Now that’s called being brave and taking control of your life. Furthermore, the blogger is still documenting her love life on her blog Big Curvy Love.